After any heartbreak, the first thing that comes to your mind is that I will never come out of this sadness. My life is ruined, forever broken, shattered for life, and all these super sad phrases start screaming out at you from the online jungle of words and quotes. Even you yourself see your last few days or weeks and reach a serious conclusion that this is seriously the end, and nothing can redeem you. I understand. I understand exactly how helpless it all seems with clarity and logic. But that's bullshit. That's our first reaction to pain. It's so intense, so soul-crushing, and so paralyzing that you can't see any light in this dark hole ever. So, I am not arguing whether you are feeling the right thing. Of course, you are right. Even I would feel the same thing.
But, we all heal, sooner or later. The scars remain, but they too fade away, with each passing second and with each hug that you get. After a year or so, you too will look back and laugh at yourself for thinking that your life was finished. This all feels hopeless because you are too hurt, because your soul can't see any way out, and because you feel totally helpless even with people hugging you. It's a very personal and intimate emotion, this pain. Only you will feel this in your bones. Only you will live those heavy, damp nights. Only you will feel numb, looking at the mirror. Only you will start crying out of nowhere. Only you will feel breathless lying on the bed. Only you will scream into your pillow in anger. So I am not giving you that hope that someone will come and soak in your pain. You will have to cry your own tears, my friend.
But I promise you that you will heal. With time, your soul will learn to accept it. You will find your goals and dreams. You will meet new people. You will reconnect with the lost friends. You will rediscover your bond with your siblings. You will realize that you neglected your parents for someone. You will realize that you have wasted enough time in this doom. Just, just hang in there. Don't quit. Have faith. I have faith in you. Big Hug.
~ Rahul Kaushik